About Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a form of therapy that prioritises emotion in informing us about our deepest needs and values. EFT can be used with individuals, couples and families and aims to help people to express, explore and understand their reactions, behaviours and thoughts; all with a view to helping them to connect with their deepest needs and with the people who matter to them. This then allows them to live more full, satisfying and connected lives.
EFT for couples has been extensively researched over the last 25 years with outstanding outcomes. EFT is usually a short term (8-20 sessions), structured approach to couples therapy formulated in the early 80s by Dr Sue Johnson and Dr Les Greenberg. Since then, Sue Johnson has further developed the model, utilising attachment theory to further understand couple relationships and to guide therapists in helping them most effectively. EFT is also used with families and individuals. A substantial body of research supporting the effectiveness of EFT for couples now exists. Research studies find that 70-75% of couples move from distress to recovery and approximately 90% show significant improvements in marital satisfaction. The major contraindications for EFT are on-going violence in the relationship or an ongoing affair. EFT is being used with many different kinds of couples in private practice, university training centres, hospital clinics and many different cultural groups throughout the world. These distressed couples include partners suffering from disorders such as depression, post-traumatic stress disorders and chronic illness.
Strengths of Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples
- EFT is based on clear, explicit conceptualisations of marital distress and adult love. These conceptualisations are supported by empirical research on the nature of marital distress and adult attachment.
- EFT is collaborative and respectful of clients combining experiential Rogerian techniques with structural systemic interventions.
- Change strategies and interventions are specified.
- Key moves and moments in the change process have been mapped into nine steps and three change events.
- EFT has been validated by over 20 years of empirical research. There is also research on the change processes and predictors of success.
- EFT has been applied to many different kinds of problems and populations.
- EFT is non-blaming.
- EFT is not affiliated with any particular religious beliefs.
- EFT is relevant for any couple wanting to improve their sense of connection; whether they are mixed gender, same gender, monogamous or non-monogamous.
Goals of Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples
To expand and re-organise key emotional responses – the music of the attachment dance.
To create a shift in partner’s interactional positions and initiate new cycles of interaction.
To foster the creation of a secure bond between partners.
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EFT is all about attachment. It focuses on repetitive cycles of interaction that couples get caught in where they trigger each other’s attachment panic and react in rigid, protective ways. Both partner’s best attempts to get their emotional needs met unfortunately trigger the other to react defensively and serve to create distance and pain, rather than closeness and emotional safety. We call this a dance because the steps are so well known and each partner affects the other intimately. Most couples know the steps of their “dance” very well and often feel helpless to change the steps.
This is where EFT comes in. Instead of simply working on communication skills that can sometimes feel like a “bandaid” to the situation, EFT aims to help couples to see their dance and exit their dance by sending more clear messages about emotional needs in ways that do not trigger the defenses and fears of their partner. EFT goes to the heart of the matter by uncovering the deeper needs and fears that often go unheard and by helping partners express these to one-another. This is how they create a new dance of connection, safety and security. EFT is deeply moving, satisfying and meaningful…..And the positive changes are maintained at three-month follow-up in research studies.